كيف يكون الحوار مع من يختلف معنا؟
قدم وفد من نجران إلى المدينة، وتذكر كتب السيرة حوارهم مع النبي ﷺ وعهد الأمان بينهم. الحوار لا يعني أن الجميع سيصلون إلى النتيجة نفسها، لكنه يعني احترام الناس والوضوح في الكلام.
نختلف من غير سخرية، ونحفظ الحقوق من غير أن نخفي ما نؤمن به.
تذكر كتب السيرة حوار النبي ﷺ مع وفد نجران.
كيف تقول رأيك باحترام؟
تدرب على جملة: «أفهم رأيك، وأنا أرى كذا لأن…».
كيف تعامل صديقاً يخالفك في رأي تحبّه أنت جداً؟
المصادر: سيرة ابن هشام؛ خبر وفد نجران يحتاج مراجعة تفصيلية.؛ صحيح البخاري في فضل أبي عبيدة.
A delegation of the Christians of Najran in Yemen came to Madinah, and the Prophet ﷺ lodged them in his mosque and treated them generously. When the time for their prayer came they stood to pray in a corner of the mosque; some people moved to stop them, and the Prophet ﷺ said: let them be. They talked for days, and then went home on their own religion, with a covenant of safety between them.
Argue with reasons, and honour a guest even when he disagrees with you.
A delegation of the Christians of Najran — a district of Yemen — came to the Prophet ﷺ, their bishops and notables among them, dressed in their finest. He treated them generously and lodged them in his mosque. When the time for their prayer came, they stood to pray in a corner of the mosque, and some of the people moved to stop them; the Prophet ﷺ said: “Let them be.” Then a long discussion ran between them for days, about the oneness of Allah and about Jesus, peace be upon him — all of it argument and explanation, with no compulsion and no threat in it. When they did not agree, they were not forced: they went home on their own religion, and the Prophet ﷺ wrote them a covenant of safety for themselves, their property and their churches. They asked him for a trustworthy man to judge between them in their affairs, and he sent Abu Ubaydah ibn al-Jarrah with them.
Allah says: ﴿وَلَا تُجَادِلُوا أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ إِلَّا بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ﴾ — “Do not argue with the People of the Book except in the best way.”